You Are Here for a Reason

When it was announced that BU would be returning to the “traditional” campus environment most students were thrilled. The sheer idea of not having to social distance was exciting. Many of us have never experienced college to its full extent and while the return to normalcy brings many changes, they were welcomed. No more to-go dining hall food, no more zoom classes from a tiny dorm room, and finally we get to go to sports events. So why are so many students unhappy? It’s clear that this return to normalcy hasn’t gone as we expected and that’s ok. 

There are so many times in our lives that we have to deal with disappointment, but students shouldn’t have to deal with new depressive symptoms, social anxiety, etc. alone. It is important to recognize that if you feel this way you aren’t alone. So many students are feeling isolated and lonely despite the enormous amount of students on campus; it isn’t your fault. So many students are also feeling overwhelmed by the workload. BU is hard, but you are here for a reason. The time it now takes to walk to class, get food at the dining hall, walk to club meetings, etc. makes us all feel much busier than last year. If you are feeling overwhelmed, know that it doesn’t mean you can’t do it. However, some of the best advice I’ve ever gotten is “just because you can do something doesn’t mean you have to.” It’s okay to say no. As we near the end of the semester, it’s important to remember that your mental health should always be a priority and that’s nothing to feel bad about. 

If you are struggling to prioritize your mental health you aren’t alone. However, there are so many ways that you can take time for yourself even when you are trying to manage a busy schedule. One way is to treat yourself with kindness. The saying “you are your own worst critic” has so much truth to it. Improving your own mental health starts with changing the way we think about and talk to ourselves. Taking care of your body can drastically improve your mental health as well. Drinking water, eating nutritious meals every day, sleeping enough, and exercising helps ensure that your basic physical needs are satisfied. Breaking up the routine or monotony of your day can give you a new perspective on your life. Try walking to class on a different route or studying in a new spot to bring some gentle change to your life. Finally, don’t be afraid to get help if you need it. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength, it doesn’t make you weak. If you do find yourself needing help, you can always reach out to behavioral medicine at BU to get short-term help or be connected with other resources in our community.